Why Can't Single Girls Be Gutsy?

What would Carrie do? That's right Carrie Bradshaw. For starters she'd right a newspaper column read by all of New York as opposed to a blog with 5 followers. But I'm going to channel my inner Carrie anyway.

After a silly weekend away with friends, I got to thinking, what is the role of the twenty-something woman in a post hookup situation? Most of the time a hook up is just that, a onetime deal....but how do you know if it should (or could) be more?
Should a girl just wait a few days for a guy to get in touch with her? If he doesn't, she could just brush it off as a good time and move on. That's usually what I do.

In college a roommate insisted I read "He's Just Not That Into You." It made perfect sense; if he's not calling he's not into you. Then a much trusted friend of the male species told me that's all bullshit! One set of rules cannot be applied to every situation.

So, is sitting idle really acceptable for the modern day woman? I'm not the type to stand on a soapbox and preach women's rights. I think if we want to be treated equal we should act equal, without all the fuss. But when it comes to dating, acting equal has its stereotypes.

If the guy isn't making a move, should a girl just accept it? Or should, as an equal, the girl be equally responsible to make to make contact? It's all too easy with email, text messages, Facebook etc.

I’d like to consider myself a gutsy girl in most situations. But when it comes to dating, I’m terrified of the clingy girl stereotype. If a girl sends subtle email or a friend request, she is seen as being a creepy stalker or a clingy girl.

I want to be a girl who goes after what I want. But it’s so much easier to get a Master’s Degree, a great job and a really cute car….hell it’s easier to finish a marathon than it is to figure out how to date.

I want to be a gutsy in dating.